Pricey Abby: My pal’s character modified, and now she’s stalking me

DEAR ABBY: “Stacy” and I’ve been buddies for greater than 20 years.

Ten years in the past my husband, youngsters and I moved again to our hometown. At the moment, I used to be afforded the chance to be a stay-at-home mother. Stacy has one youngster and by no means married, so she needed to work.

Just a few years in the past, she was in a horrible auto accident. I took care of her afterward and drove her to her medical appointments for six months.

When Stacy was launched to return to work, she didn’t go, so she was fired — and she or he has modified for the more severe. She is verbally abusive at shops, physician’s places of work, restaurant drive-thru home windows, you title it. She refused to let me drive, and her driving scared me.

She would name me 20 to 30 occasions a day, and if I informed her I used to be busy, she would come over anyway.

I began having a breakdown. I informed her to cease and blocked her, however now she is again at it. I’m being stalked.

What do I do?

— FRIEND GONE WRONG

DEAR FRIEND: Your pal seems to have change into mentally unbalanced.

Does she have household? If she does, inform them about what’s happening.

You’ve already blocked her in your cellphone and social media. If she comes over, don’t let her in.

If needed, the next move ought to be to file a police report. In case you have cause to suppose she may change into violent or injury your property, you could want to hunt a restraining order.

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 16-year-old lady who’s struggling to have a social life.

Since I used to be somewhat lady, I’ve had an issue connecting with children my very own age. I’ve carried out higher with children older or youthful than me. Quite a lot of occasions I relate higher with lecturers than with college students. The few buddies I had earlier than COVID-19 have vanished into skinny air.

When faculty began, I used to be a part of a brand new group of “buddies,” nevertheless it didn’t final lengthy. The teams in my faculty are very tight. It’s virtually unattainable to interrupt into an already-existing pal group.

Whereas I don’t thoughts being alone, I do know I’m lacking out. It doesn’t assist that I don’t know the best way to strategy different teenagers and that I endure from anxiousness that makes me doubt myself once I strive.

I can also’t categorical myself clearly as a result of I’m not from this nation. English shouldn’t be my first language, and there are cultural issues I can’t perceive.

Do you will have any recommendation so I can strategy individuals simpler and possibly make a pal or two?

— FRIENDLESS GIRL

DEAR GIRL: This can be one thing you’ll be able to discuss with a trusted trainer or faculty counselor.

As a result of the cliques at your faculty are tough to interrupt into, ask what sort of particular curiosity golf equipment exist in your campus. Is drama provided, or is there a sport you is perhaps interested by that might assist you to combine with others your age?

You don’t need to be a star athlete or a fantastic actress with the intention to take pleasure in actions corresponding to these. The purpose is to show your self to others who’ve an analogous curiosity.

And keep in mind, highschool could appear to be it lasts perpetually, nevertheless it doesn’t. After you have graduated, you WILL have the prospect to make many extra social contacts on a stage taking part in area.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.