DEAR HARRIETTE: I just lately paid for an Airbnb rental for 4 days. The host was extraordinarily attentive and accommodating main as much as my check-in date.
After I arrived, the place was not what I used to be anticipating in any respect. It regarded nothing like the photographs. I instantly contacted the host and requested a refund, then canceled my reservation by means of the app.
The host apologized profusely and was very form. He mentioned it was a giant misunderstanding, and I imagine him. Just a few days later, I acquired my a reimbursement from Airbnb straight, not the host.
The host wrote me an e-mail explaining that he’s now banned from internet hosting as a result of I took my grievance to the corporate and didn’t enable him to deal with it himself. I really feel responsible. Was I flawed?
— Misunderstanding
DEAR MISUNDERSTANDING: You weren’t flawed. The host shouldn’t be your pal, regardless that he was form. He’s the one who used the app. That’s the way you related with him.
The host is aware of that the area you bought is completely different from the one he marketed. Whereas it’s unlucky that he bought banned, it’s not your fault.
What you would do is write to Airbnb to inform them how gracious the host was to you, regardless that the area wasn’t as much as par. Your follow-up word by means of the app might soften the repercussions, however please do not forget that you probably did nothing flawed and the host definitely did.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Just a few months in the past, I gave a referral to a former classmate for a gap on the firm I work for. A mutual pal of ours had requested if I might assist her out, and I did.
She bought the job, and he or she’s been with the corporate for nearly two months now.
Since she’s been employed, she barely acknowledges me. She thanked me for my assist however hardly says something to me in any respect at work. I’m fortunate if she says hello to me on sure days.
Whereas we weren’t notably shut earlier than, I really feel that she ought to not less than be pleasant towards me. I barely knew her, and I did one thing extraordinarily good for her. What ought to I do or say?
— Ungrateful
DEAR UNGRATEFUL: You acknowledge that this girl thanked you for the introduction to the corporate and to your assist. If she is somebody you didn’t know earlier than and had no relationship with, there actually shouldn’t be far more you need to count on. You shouldn’t be trying to her for something.
Would it not be sensible on her half to befriend you? Certain, however it’s not required by etiquette. You probably did a pleasant factor for her, and that’s that. Transfer on. Dwell your life. Don’t look to her for any sort of acknowledgment.
She was a stranger and nonetheless is. You don’t should really feel any manner about it.
I’ll add, although, that while you refer individuals for jobs, you need to just be sure you evaluate their credentials and really feel sure that you just need to endorse them. Why? As a result of your phrase counts. Referring somebody you barely know for a job comes with dangers.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist individuals entry and activate their desires. You may ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
